Hi, we're Rebekkah and Kevin, and we’re choosing to discover self, to awaken, and to live life instead of just existing.
Ever since we first opened our eyes in this world we’d been told by society on what to do, how to behave, and how to live our lives. Our parent’s attitude, fear, and ideologies were constantly stapled onto our psyche, and if you had toxic parents or relatives like we did, your path in life more than likely will be a rocky, pothole, speed bump motherfucker.
Ours was, but we changed it and so can you . . .
We all have the power within us to change our lives, to rewrite our story, and to be truly happy.
It’s hard work and a never-ending process but so rewarding. You’ll discover as we have that you’re more at peace, things don’t bother you like they used to, you’re happier, and you feel liberated.
We’ve always known there was something more to this life than what we’ve been spoon fed since birth.
Kevin and I met in January of 1994 in Prescott, AZ. At the time all Kevin owned was his acoustic guitar and what could fit in his Army duffle bag.
In November of 1993, I moved from Phoenix to Prescott, AZ to stay with my mom. I just came out of a horrible abusive relationship, so she was nice enough to offer me a roof over my head. The only things I owned at that time was my beat-up 1973 Mach 1 mustang and what could fit in the tiny U-Haul I towed with it.
At the time we didn’t realize it, but we loved being minimalist, and now twenty plus years later, we’re returning back to it and who we were before society told us who we were supposed to be.
Kevin and I got married in 1996. Back then, we were searching for that something we knew was there but couldn’t find it.
We were lost, trying to discover who and what we are, but at the time we didn’t know it because we were still under the spell that was cast on us the day we entered this world.
We spent our free time reading the Tao Te Ching, playing hacky sack at the courthouse square, hanging out at The Full Moon Café, drinking cappuccinos while listening to poetry readings, browsing in antique stores, and going to the movie theatre.
We were poor, but we were raised in poverty and knew no different. We knew how to survive on very little and how to stretch a dollar.
In 1996, we moved to Ohio where my dad and step-mom lived. He’d been bugging me for years to move out there, so we decided to give it a try. Maybe this would be our opportunity to climb the social ladder and actually make a decent living. It didn’t work out.
So, we made a plan to get our asses back to Prescott and hustled. Eight months later, we were back home living with my mom and step-dad until we were able to get jobs and our own place.
In February of 1999, tragedy hit our family.
Kevin’s brother Joe, who we were very close to, got in a gun fight at a drug house. He died, along with the other guy.
I’ll never forget the call I received right after I came home from work. I’ll never forget that horrible night . . . or the days, weeks, months, that followed.
Joe was a meth head. Kevin and I tried helping him, but he didn’t want help.
You never get over a loved one’s passing. You just learn to live around the hole in your heart their absence created.
In 2000, we dealt with two other family member’s addiction to meth.
It wasn’t a good year. We did buy our first house in October of that year, however, after we bought it the pit of our stomach dropped out from under us. We thought we made a huge mistake but had to live with it.
We decided to keep striving for the conventional, cookie cutter lifestyle society wanted us to live.
We had a nice house, good jobs, a classic car, the all-American dream. For the first time in our lives we didn’t have to count how much each item we put in our grocery cart was in order to stay within our $50.00 budget.
But you know what. We were fucking miserable. We worked our asses off and got into debt because we bought shit we didn’t need.
We went through some dark times while living in that fancy house. Not to mention, dealing with childhood trauma and toxic people in our lives. However, bleak as our world was, we kept searching for that something within us. We continued studying theology and questioning everything.
In 2004 we decided to change our lives because we were fed up with the stress and chaos of living the way society expected us to live. There had to be a better way.
We made a plan.
Plan: Sell our house, pay off debt, live in a small cheap ass apartment for a year, save money, move to a small town in a different state, and buy a house with cash so we won’t have a mortgage.
We put our house on the market and it sold within 24 hours for more than what we were asking for which honestly, surprised the hell out of me.
We stuck to our plan and ended up buying a house from my co-worker who had been trying to sell her house in North Dakota for five years. Throughout those years, she’d show me pictures of it, and I felt drawn to it.
. . . Well, we ended up buying it sight unseen for $20,000.00. We figured if it was a piece of shit, we could fix it up.
Never once in our lives had we ever stepped a foot in North Dakota, and here we just bought a house, sight unseen, in a rural farming community of about 1,800 people.
-So, we packed up our belongings and moved to a state we’d never been in.
We completely changed our lives.
We got out of the rat race and got rid of the toxic people in our lives.
Moving to North Dakota was one of the best decisions we’d ever made. We were able to decompress and live a much calmer, slower pace life.
The house wasn’t a dump, btw, but it did need some love, which we gave it plenty of.
Throughout our years in rural North Dakota, we’ve changed and grown like we never would have if we stayed in Arizona.
I wrote and published six books, among other things. Kevin owned his own trading post store and was elected to city council. We attempted to adapt to this way of life by doing what people do here and being part of the community.
It became painfully clear that we didn’t fit, so we took a few steps back and continued searching inwardly.
The summer of August 2017, I found myself feeling low. One night I was standing in the dining room by myself, looking around. Then it dawned on me what my problem was . . . we had all of this stuff. Why? It didn’t serve us in the least bit. My mind took my thoughts a bit deeper.
If we continued living this way, we’d be living the same life until we were old or dead.
Kevin and I were just existing. We weren’t living life on our terms.
That night, I told Kevin how I felt. He understood and mentioned buying an RV. His idea immediately piqued my interest because ever since I was a little girl, I wanted to live in a van.
We quickly discovered there was a huge community of people traveling around in their RVs or vans as digital nomads.
This was what we wanted to do—to go back to becoming minimalists like we were when we first met and be digital nomads. Live life instead of just existing.
-So, we made another life changing plan.
Plan: Buy an RV, save money, renovate it and make it to where we can live off grid (solar panels, composting toilet, etc.), get a manual car we can tow behind, get our house ready to sell, sell it and go.
If you want to change your life, make a plan, and just do it.
During this time, we’d done a lot of soul-searching and discovered who and what we are.
What is the purpose of this life?
Why are we here?
What are we?
Have you ever wondered that?
Kevin had made some awesome, no bull-shit, discoveries about self. It has taken decades to reach this point, and he’s going to share all of it with you on his blog (Down The Rabbit Hole).
Are you ready to take the red pill and learn some mind-blowing stuff about who and what you are?
Are you ready to live a much calmer and peaceful life and much more?
Check out Down The Rabbit Hole blog.
If you’re interested in health and wellness check it out. You’ll discover content that can bring more value to your life.
We do have an Etsy shop called Dare To Live Shop. It has cool t-shirts to inspire people and to help us promote a life of self-discovery. We also have a Dare To Live YouTube channel we started in December of 2018, that has some valuable content. Once we become full-time digital nomads, you guys can follow us on our adventures and daily life. Click here to check out our channel and subscribe–> http://bit.ly/2EMuEtx
In the meantime, all we have left in our master plan is to finish up with the RV renovation, get the house ready to sell, and then sell it.
ARE YOU READY TO TAKE THE RED PILL AND GO DOWN THE RABBIT HOLE?
ARE YOU READY FOR SOME POSITIVE VIBES IN YOUR LIFE?
Do you know your natural, pure state is happiness?
The shifts that Kevin and I have made in our personal development has been astounding, and we’re still making new discoveries.