Top Ten Things That’ll Change Your Life

Kevin and I had done a Youtube video on the Top Ten Things That’ll Change Your Life, but I thought I’d write about it—sort of like a transcript but not verbatim—so I could elaborate on some of the things we discussed.

You know when you talk about something to someone or a group of people, and then later on you’re like, “Dammit! I forgot to say that.” Another one is, “I should have been more specific when I talked about not watching TV.”

Yeah, that was totally me, so this will give me a chance to clarify what I meant.

I’ll put the link to the video at the end of this post so you can watch it, if you haven’t already. 😉

A thumb hovering over the on and off button on the TV remote.

1.) Turn Off Your TV, Especially The News

Think about the amount of negativity you’re pumping your brain with every morning when you’re trying to get ready for your day—all the arguing and nonsense that goes on in the news, which let’s be real here . . . is an addiction in its’ own self. Not to mention, all the advertising that’s going on, which is all subliminal messages and propaganda.

It’s not good or a healthy way to start your day.

 . . . Try turning the news off for one week and see what a difference it makes.

You’ll be amazed.


If you do want to watch TV, watch something educational, something that’ll grow your mind and you can learn from.

We switched to Netflix so we don’t have commercials. Now we can actually watch documentaries and good shows that are uplifting instead of being a drag on our spirit.

If you watch a sitcom, the subliminal messages are: this person has a good life and you don’t, you should try to live more like that, you should buy the car they have, the furniture they . . . it’s this perpetual fucking cycle of negativity.

Not good.

We’re not saying to totally quit watching your favorite sitcoms. We have ones that we watch, however, be mindful of the hidden messages being portrayed in your show. Don’t get sucked into it.

-But, just try it for one week without the boob tube on, unless it’s educational, and see what happens.

2.) Return To Whole Foods

Boxed food is full of preservatives and garbage that’s not good for your body.

Brown eggs in a carton on a blue marble counter top with a small book opened to a certain page. Glass jars of colorful vegetables are displayed in the back. A mother's hands is cutting what looks like squares of dark chocolate maybe and her young son's hand are hovering next to her's, like he's anxious to help.

If you get back to the joy of actually cooking and preparing your meals, make it a family type of thing where you’re sharing time together. You’ll discover it’ll be a wonderful part of your day that you’ll look forward to.

. . . And we have time to cook. We act like we’re so busy and in such a hurry that we can’t take a half hour to prep a decent meal.

In truth, it’s downright laziness.

I’m guilty of that. 🙋‍♀️

There are days when we’re too damn tired to cook.

There’s nothing wrong with that.

Don’t cook, but don’t make it a habit to eat unhealthy food because it’s quick and easy to do so, because if you do, you’re going to feel like shit. Also, you’ll be more susceptible to mood swings and getting sick.🤮

Eat more naturally.

The difference your body feels when you’re putting whole foods in it, compared to garbage is amazing.

3.) Meditate

The only goal here is to free your mind from all thoughts for about 20 minutes a day.

This is a life changing thing.

It totally is.

The clarity of your mind and the ability to focus is fucking awesome.

No lie.

There’s always been a debate on how to meditate and if it’s a religious practice, which it’s not, but there are different methods to choose from. I’ll write an article on them in the future.

Here’s one you can try: sit comfortably, relax yourself, listen to your breathing, slow it down, get more comfortable, get more relaxed, you’re at peace. Now try to get rid of all of your thoughts. Try to look at the spaces between thoughts and focus there.

The whole object is to slow your brain down and to get it to stop thinking for just a few minutes.

What this does is teaches you to control your thoughts and it calms your spirit.

We’re not making this shit up or blowing smoke up your ass.

It’s a scientific proven fact that meditation helps.

If you have anxiety, it helps it, among other things.

There are so many benefits to meditation.

It’s amazing what it has done for us.

Statue of Aristotle.

4.) Read, But Only From People Smarter Than You

We read philosophy and ancient spiritual books (Hinduism, Buddhism). These are the people who have studied the mind and studied life and how it works, for thousands of years, some three thousand BC!

That’s some crazy cool ass shit.

I Am That by Nisargadatta Maharaj sits by our chair where Kevin has his morning tea. He’ll read a chapter or at least a couple of paragraphs every single morning.

-So, you don’t have to sit and read volumes of books, but read something that is powerful, motivating, and moves you in the right direction.

 . . .You can read books that I call brain candy (I said mind candy in the video, but I meant brain candy.).

Picture of my books in my Beyond the Eyes trilogy, including good reviews.

As you know, I’m an author who writes YA (young adult) paranormal romance and fantasy books.

Those books are strictly for entertainment.

There’s nothing wrong with reading fiction books.

Reading is good for the mind and spirit.

That’s all we’re saying.

As far as saying read something from people who are smarter than you, just read at least a paragraph or chapter a day. Something that’s going to challenge your mind and grow it.

F.Y.I: My first book (Beyond the Eyes) is FREE at these virtual stores.👇

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Writing in a journal.

5.) Write: Keep A Journal Of The Epiphanies That Come To You

Kevin has been doing this for a couple of years while journeying inwardly.

As things come to you, write them down, then you’ll have sort of like a map of the path your mind is taken, so you’re not going back learning the same thing over and over.

You’re taking a linear path and advancing forward, and you got some kind of track of it.

A woman with greenish/yellowish thin beams of light crossing her face and round symbols surrounding her.

You’re going to start getting epiphanies—especially when you begin meditating—where you’ll get information from a higher source . . .

 . . . We don’t know how it works, but it’s wonderful.

Write the information down.

You’ll notice you start to realize more stuff.

Write it down, because a month later, when you look back, you’ll be like, “Oh, I forgot I wrote that.”

Two women outside among the trees and hills with their hands raised above their heads.

6.) Walk: Keep Your Body Active But Be Outside

Why go to the gym and watch the news and be locked in stale dead air?

Go outside and be part of the world, nature, the earth.

If it’s too cold to be outdoors, going to the gym is a no brainer . . .

 . . . But if you can go outside, get your butt out there and take a walk.

We’re in North Dakota and it gets crazy cold here, and we walk pretty much year-round.

We bundle up in our cold weather winter gear and go outside to get some fresh air (clean, clear, prairie air) that smells great.

It’s wonderful being out in nature.

It feels so much better, mentally, physical . . . it invigorates your spirit.

Painting of a pink sky, a tree in the snow covered prairie and other plant life.
Kevin painted this. 😊

7.) Create Art

Create something—even if you’re just going to whittle a wooden spoon.

Do something.

Create something.

Doodle something.

Work on a painting.

Work on a poem.

Why have we erased art from our lives in this society? They hardly teach it in school anymore.

Art is important.

Creativity is important.

Everybody is creative in some way.

I know there are people who say they’re not creative, but they are. Even if it’s flower arrangements, decorating the house . . . do something to get that creative spirit flowing.

It’s essential to a happy life, to your health and well-being.

8.) Pray Only That Your Faults Die Before You Do.~Marcus Aurelius, Roman stoic Emperor of Rome 161 to 180

What an incredible statement.

Recognize that you already have been given everything you need.

There are people who pray for their team to win or for a Harley, so that the supreme being, whoever that is, will redo the entire cosmos to satisfy what they want . . .


Seriously, think about all that you have been given.

You’ve been given everything that you need in order to survive in life and to be fruitful. 

Pray only that your faults die before you do.

And be grateful.

I show gratitude every single day.

It makes a huge difference.

9.) Stop Complaining

Do you realize the negativity you’re throwing out there, that energy, when you complain?

“It’s snowing. It’s too cold. It’s wet.”

Look what you just did.

You turned over your mind’s chemical factory to snow.

Literally, your mood now depends on snow.

The weather is something you don’t have any control over.

Stop complaining or you’ll be enslaved to that mindset.

It’s not going to do you any good if you bitch about the snow.

This goes right into what you do control.

What you control is behind your eyes.

What’s in front of your eyes you have very little if any control over.

Shit happens. 💩

Nature happens.

It’s all fate.

The events of today depend on the events of yesterday.

The events of tomorrow depend on the events of today.

That’s just how it works.

But what you can control is behind your eyes.

Very few people want to go into what they can actually have control over. They rather complain and bitch about stuff they have absolutely no control over.

It’s all a matter of perspective and how you see things.

If you want to have a miserable day, you’re going to have one.

It’s all up to you.

The responsibility is on you.

You have control over your perspective.

Two kind people giving a dog some water out of a plastic bottle.

10.) Give More

Kevin’s boss did a wonderful thing for Christmas. He remembers when he was younger, his parents—who I believe had six kids—were struggling to pay their bills during Christmas time and couldn’t afford presents. Well, some kind soul left $200.00 on the seat of their car.

Kevin’s boss never forgot that so he gave his employees a challenge, along with $500.00 each .

 . . . Go find someone who is in need of that money and be a secret Santa to them, and then come back with proof that you did it.

What a wonderful thing to start doing.

Make that your Christmas.

We’re working on becoming minimalist and preparing to move into the RV. A lot of our stuff will be gone, and we’re going to be down to what can you possibly send us for Christmas.

More plastic crap?

No. Send us a receipt where you helped somebody that was poor.

That would be an awesome Christmas present.

Help somebody who is really struggling or has fallen ill, and they’re really trying but can’t get on top of things.

That’s what we think it’s all about and because of what Kevin’s boss did, we’re going to start a new tradition every Christmas.

We’re going to find somebody who is actually trying and working their butt off to pay bills or whatever.

We’re going to help that person out.

Go down to city hall and ask whoever is there if somebody is having a hard time. You’d like to pay off their water bill.

They’ll get a note in the mail that somebody paid off their debt and to have a Merry Christmas.

That touches people.

It’s real.

It’s from the heart.

Give back.

It’s not about you.

When you start letting go of ego-self, you’ll see all of us are one.

Different races holding each other's wrists.

We all need to work together.

We need to be kind to each other.

We all share the same fate.

We all need to work together and not be shitty to each other.

-So, that’s the top ten things that’ll change your life. If you have anything to add, we’d love to know about it. ✌️

Here’s the link to the video I mentioned earlier to check it out. If you do and like it, please click the 👍 button and subscribe.

This Post Has 2 Comments

  1. I do so many of those things already! Gives me peace…
    every year around Christmas time , I go out to eat at a few places,, and if my server gives 100%,, and for me, that’s with them putting the leftovers in a box without me asking, and kindness,,, not looking for perfection. Just someone who does their job best… soooo. ,i give them a50 dollar bill
    Tip,!! Their shock and awe,, greatfullness is beautiful to see…… I’ve had some of them cry because they cant believe it..
    Ok.. didn’t want to write a book…
    Going to bed in a minute.. but I do almost all and would love to talk more about it. …
    Goodnight,,, what you wrote was absolutely on point… much love ❤🕷🤗😴😇

    1. That’s cool you do that.😊 We’ll have to talk more about this later, for sure. Much love to you as well. 😘

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